Monday, February 18, 2008

A Moment Of Clarity

Our family counselor told D and I that we were not good disciplinarians with M. He is making a couple of C's and not handing in some of his homework, hence, family counselor. But in that moment, I told the counselor ... "honestly, until this grade/homework issue, we have really never needed to discipline M very much, he has always been the perfectly behaved child". And that statement enlightened and delighted me in that moment of clarity.

6 comments:

PLO said...

You could be talking about my son. He is a wonderful young man, but has trouble turning in homework and working to his ability in school. I have resigned myself to the fact that he may not be an excellent student, but he is an excellent son...as I am sure yours is!!!

Jeri said...

Kim, I'm also from Edmonds, but my 16 year old goes to MDHS. He's not working to his potential. 2B's, 4C's. We have a rule, "No B's (meaning if you don't have a B average), no keys. He's fine with that. I know he can do it, it's just frustrating that he's not. And like your son, mine is a wonderful boy who has never had any problems in school, inspite of his ADHD. He's just gotten so darned social this year, there's no time for work. I know it could be so much worse, though. We're lucky to have such good kids who we really like to spend time with. And, my son has great friends I like and who seem to like being around our house and interact with me. I know my son is on the right track there - if only we could buckle him down to school work!

phlegmfatale said...

M is a lovely young man, with wonderful parents and grandma. He'll be fine.

S'mee said...

o.k. 5 kids here. 2 f, 3 m. all with high i.q even into savant levels. the 2 girls were freakish over achievers with the stress to prove it. girls, meh.

oldest male: HATED high school and everything about it save one teacher. barely made it out alive, survived in tact, THE top in ALL classes during college, fast track fire fighter, fine, happy.

second oldest male: LOVED high school, it was a social event for him. barely made it out alive, survived in tact, accelerated quickly in the business world, fine, happy.

third male: HATED school. had learning disabilities in direct contract with his intelligence, barely made it out alive, survived in tact, moving successfully through his courses and working full time very successfully in his chosen field, fine, happy.

All 3 men are married, two with children, all very happy, very civic minded, volunteers, and HAPPY!

If M is happy and you still can communicate freely with him, no worries. If he gets all funky, personality changes drastically, starts hanging with Satan, and won't let you in, then I'd worry. Until then, he's a guy. Guys deal. He'll find his way and when the rules of life change, he'll soar.

Tara Ross Studios said...

awww, no worries, Kim!

Michelle (a.k.a. la vie en rose) said...

mmmmm...you're going to be one of the 1st people i turn to when my son is this age...so you have to keep blogging for at least the next 10-14 years okay....