Monday, November 26, 2007

Lucky Me And Thank You All!

People often ask me if it is difficult to live with your mother. And I say, sometimes it is. When she is telling me to clean my room when I am, uhm...uhm, 50-something-years-old. When she gets upset about how M and I can take off our clothes in one motion, leaving the underwear, socks, pants, shirt all in one piece (which she laters has to unravel to do laundry). When she won't sit down to watch a movie and keeps cleaning the kitchen, banging plates and pans together so we can't hear the movie ... until I feel compelled to get up and go see what needs to be down in the kichen. Those are all small things when I think about my mom living too far away from me to see her everyday ... to talk and listen and have our lives entwined until the end. I don't want it any other way. I am very lucky to have her as my mom.

Living with a parent can teach you so much about life. Compassion, compromise and lots more love. Thank you all so very, very much for all of your well wishes. I printed them out and took them to the hospital. She had another scare with GI bleeding and is still in ICU.

Tonight, when I gave M the last bit of mom's dressing (that I completely love) ... I had the morbid thought ... that might be the last bite of her dressing ever and I am not eating it myself! But I know she will be back cooking and crashing around in the kitchen before I know it. The kitchen is my mom's domain. She cooks and cleans in her finest jewerly and clothes ... She has the knack. I do not. And I know I have not eaten the last of my mom's home cookin'.

Thank you all so much!

19 comments:

shash said...

kim, i've been thinking about you today. i'm glad you're sounding good and it sounds like your mom will be good too! still sending good thoughts your way. ox

Cassi said...

What a gorgeous picture of the two of you! Not a day has gone by that I haven't thought of you. I'm sure your mom will be home soon and will make all the dressing you can eat :) Take care, still sending positive energy, Cassi

jill said...

Great photo... I'm saddened to read about your mom, but encouraged by your words and the positiveness in the air.

Mom's... Such a special relationship you have with yours. You are so blessed to have her so close!

Well wishes and prayers are sent your way...

Elaine said...

Kim, I truly feel your pain, having just gone through this a week ago. It's scary. For both of you. I'm sending my best wishes too.

dee said...

got up early this morning to see if you had posted something about MOM. The picture is so beautiful I have a lump in my throat. Sending her prayers and hugs for a speedy recovery. Some for you too!

Lex said...

Best of luck to you and your family. You truly are lucky to still have your mother in your life. It's great that you guys are so close and that you appreciate her while she's still with you.

Cami said...

Just wanted you to know I'm sending positive thoughts for healing for your mom. You have a relationship to envy! Lovely photo of the two of you!

Tara Ross Studios said...

warm prayers your way, she'll be better before you know it.

Ruth Massoth said...

Kim, this is a beautiful piece. I thought it was only me she wouldn't sit down and watch a movie with. Sometimes I would badger her into but she never, ever enjoyed it. She is right, our personal habits are way too much alike. Please let me know as soon as you can what is going on. And tell Diane I am thinking of her.

Ruth

Kate I said...

I'm glad you posted an update on 'mom' because I've been thinking about her...about you both really. Yes, you're very lucky to have each other in your lives and to be so close. My 92 year old dad lives a day's drive away and he's not open to leaving his home and moving closer so I worry...but as long as he's happy, then I'm happy for him.

This is such a beautiful picture! Hugs to you both.

Sandra said...

Dear Kim,
I am way behind in my blog reading, so I only read that your mom was in the hospital just now. I do hope she's ok, and I'm sending you two many well wishes and virtual hugs from the other side of the pond. Hope she's better now. I can't tell you how lucky you are to have your mother in your life, banging around in the kitchen, serving up wonderful home cooked meals, and just being there! Love to both of you,
Sandra

Wendy said...

My mom passed away just before she turned 50. I wish I'd gotten the opportunity to bring her into our house.

It's rare that children and their parents get along well enough to live together. You're very lucky. And I love that picture.

And thanks for commenting on my post about my Granny's cornbread stuffing. It's a fantastic recipe, although it sounds like you've got your own.

Anonymous said...

Kim - I add to Kate's list my prayers for your Mom, my dear friend, You, my dear daughter-in-law, My dear Son and most dear my Grandson. God bless you all and quick healing to Dianne. Love from Kansas

mien said...

oh Kim, i came over wanting to thank you for the mention at bluelines but am now struck by what you've been going through...wish i had stopped by sooner...

you and your mom are so beautiful together...each time i go back to read what you wrote, i can't help getting teared up...i look at that picture and i just want to reach out and hug you guys.
all morning today i was just thinking about my mom since her birthday is coming up...and your words, your loving thoughts, and all that was not said, reminded me of how very precious what we have and how delicate it all can be...i am touched by your strength, your love that is so real.

my thoughts are with you and hope for your mom to be home soon...

Visual-Voice said...

I'm so glad to hear your good news and hope your mom continues to improve! My mom and I are as close as you and your mother are... I understand your feelings deeply.

Live with ease ~ Susan

Deborah said...

An inspiration. Blessings to you both.

Judy said...

What a wonderful picture of u and your mom.I hope u will be reunited soon.

s'mee said...

You are much blessed to have this relationship with such a lovely woman. May she heal quickly and may you all take advantage of this love.

Wendee said...

This is a few days late - - hope your mom continues to improve!
This photo is so lovely. You both have wonderful sparkling eyes, shimmering lips, casual/tossed hair and such great colorful beads. I need some beads! Such strong, beautiful women. Stay strong and safe. Hugs to you, your mom and the rest of the gang.